"A rejection is nothing more than a necessary step in
the pursuit of success. "
- Bo Bennett
Rejection hurts.
But there came a time in my dating career (shortly
after being given the pink slip from a guy I was
absolutely crazy about) when it dawned on me that
everybody is rejected at one time or another. I read an
interview with a massively attractive rock star who talked
about getting the heave-ho from a girl he loved, and I
thought, "Wow, if even he gets rejected, then perhaps I'm
not so bad off after all."
Chances are some guy will tell you, "I think it's time
we see other people." And it will probably hurt.
How do you deal with it? Well, you can sit around with
a gallon of Haagen Dazs, wondering where you went wrong,
why you can't hold a man, why you're fundamentally
undesirable. Or you can tell yourself, "Maybe it just
wasn't meant to be."
Which is the healthier choice? Hey, you are entitled to
your feelings. Rejection stings, but this is the time to
love yourself, not berate yourself for being a loser.
Wallowing in misery and junk food will only make you,
well, miserable. And miserable people are a turn-off.
When some guy informs you that you're not the woman of
his dreams, shake his hand and thank him for the memories.
Think of it this way: He's not for you. Maybe somebody
upstairs is making sure he doesn't move into your life for
a reason.
But, if you absolutely must, sit around for a day (two
at the very most) with the Haagen Dazs. Be miserable. Feel
what you feel. Ask yourself what, if anything, you did to
send him away.
Then stop.
Treat yourself like a treasure that has yet to be
discovered. Carry yourself like a queen. Banish all
thoughts of your former relationship. Smile easily at
people wherever you go.
Move on. You'll open yourself up to the lasting
relationship you deserve, and to a man who brings you joy
and laughter.
Terry Hernon MacDonald is the author of "How to Attract
and Marry the Man of Your Dreams." Sign up for her free
dating tips at
http://www.marrysmart.com . Check out her blog at
http://happygirlmusing.blogspot.com .
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