By now, it is pretty well accepted that women
like a man who is a little bit cocky. If you are
interested in dating more women, then pay close
attention.
It's true. If a man is confident, bordering on cocky,
he will present himself as a challenge, and we all know
women love challenges.
Other times, a man can go too far with this behavior
and make a woman feel so insecure, she feels
underqualified.
Sometimes going to far with any technique, no matter
how good, will not get your desired results. In the case
of acting too arrogant, a woman will sometimes feel so
rejected, she starts to pull away.
What happened is, you triggered her "Auto-Rejection
Mechanism".
She interpreted one of your actions as rejection, and
as such, she responded in a way to shield herself from
further rejection.
Metaphorically speaking, you stuck in the knife, and
she was merely attemtping to prevent you from twisting it.
It's a natural response to that type of thing.
It may look like she's shutting you down, and isn't
attracted, but in reality it's a completly rational
response to your mis-callibration.
There are a couple of very common situations in which a
woman's auto-rejection mechanism is triggered.
These are:
1. Using cocky humor in a miscallibrated or overly
serious way.
It is very important to blend your humor with a very
warm vibe. Your body language and tonality should be
implying that you are busting on her in a very caring way.
Oh, and be sure to smile.
2. Showing disapproval when you are in your screening
and qualification phase.
If she is attracted and at the point where she is
talking about herself in an attempt to win you over, let
her. Show approval and be genuinely interested in what she
has to say. Don't punish her for opening up to you and
trying to win you over.
3. Creating an opportunity for physical escalation and
not following through.
This is very common, and actually we get a LOT of
questions about this phenomenon. Sometimes a guy will have
a girl ready to go, ready for sex, and he will either
escalate too slowly or not at all. Out of the blue, the
woman stops returning his calls.
If you produce a window of opportunity for physical
escalation, make it happen.
4. Not calling her after sex, and expecting her to
follow up.
After sex, sometimes a guy will feel as if he has won,
and a girl should now persue him. Unfortunately, that's
not the case.
If a woman opens up to you physically, she needs to be
comforted in a way that doesn't make you seem like a
player. (That is, if you wish to make the relatioship go
further than a one night stand...)
If you feel you have gotten into this type of cycle, do
not fear. There are remedies for it.
1. Spot it early.
If you notice that she may be pulling away because of
underqualification, that is a sure sign of the
Auto-Rejection Mechanism.
2. Falsely disqualify yourself.
Once you know that she is definitely attracted but a
bit scared of being rejected by you, tell her something
like this:
"You know, I think I may be too much of a bad guy, and
the last thing I want to do is break your heart."
This will set up a challenge for her to conquer and
will cause her to argue the other side of your point. She
will once again become interested.
3. Qualify her for not playing games.
Tell her:
"You know, it's really refreshing to know a girl who
isn't into playing games with guys. You seem very up
front, honest and confident in going after those things
that you really want."
This will give her a bit more confidence in showing her
interest in you. It will also stop her in her tracks from
playing hard to get.
Using those techniques will give you a safety net for
going overboard with cocky humor, which seems to be a very
common sticking point these days.
--
Vincent DiCarlo is a world famous dating coach. His
experience comes from years of training pickup artists in
underground seduction lairs across the East Coast. He
currently runs theApproach: The Science of Social
Chemistry for the Modern Gentleman, with his
partner Sebastian Drake, and teaches men of all ages and
backgrounds to meet, attract and seduce the most beautiful
women of the world.
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