It's a proven fact.
People don't value things that come to them easy.
The same thing can be said about men who make
themselves too available to the women they are interested
in.
It's a subtle balance though. How do you persist with a
woman and be a challenge at the same time?
It's a question I get ALL the time.
Let me tell you a little secret:
In a woman's mind, she has a little switch. (Not a real
switch, it's just a metaphor) And we call that switch the
"No-Challenge Switch".
If that switch ever gets flipped, you're pretty much
cooked. Out of the game, so to speak.
So you want to be sure not to ever flip it.
There are a few behaviors that do this. Any one the
following:
1. Calling her on a predictable schedule.
If you call a woman on a predictable schedule like once
a day, or even once every other day, she will pick up on
the pattern. She has just won.
She feels that no matter what she does or says to you
she will always have that security of your regular phone
call. You are no challenge, and there is no reason for her
to plot and discuss with her girlfriends about how to get
you.
Her plotting to get you = Good.
Her talking about you = Good.
Her expecting your regular call = Bad.
2. Consistently answering her calls
If you answer her call every time, then this does two
things. Firstly, it demonstrates to her that you are VERY
interested. After all, who consistently answers their
phone nowadays?
Secondly, it shows her that you don't have much going
on in your life and you probably aren't very busy. This is
unattractive to her. She wants a man who has a life of his
own and is actively persuing his own passions.
3. Always trying to get together with her.
If, every time you talk to her, you make it a point to
try and get together with her, it will come off as
desperate or needy. She will feel obligation, she will
feel as if you want something from her.
Sometimes you should call her simply for your own
amusement. Call just to pass the time when you are
driving. Call her just to tell her about something crazy
that happened to you while at work.
When I say you should be a challenge, I don't mean that
you should be a jerk. What I simply mean is that you put
value on your own life. Put value on your time. Be
unpredictable, be unavailable sometimes but when you are
with her, give her experiences and moments that she will
never forget.
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Vincent DiCarlo is a world famous dating coach. His
experience comes from years of training pickup artists in
underground seduction lairs across the East Coast. He
currently runs theApproach: The Science of Social
Chemistry for the Modern Gentleman, with his
partner Sebastian Drake, and teaches men of all ages and
backgrounds to meet, attract and seduce the most beautiful
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