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"To be or not to be, that is the question..." There's
an interesting thing in writing. They say it's much better
to show ideas than it is to tell them.
That is, don't write "It was a scary dark night."
Write, "Clouds covered the last vestiges of the waning
moon, and a chill frost rose through the air. A heavy fog
set on the ground obscured his feet, and the only sight to
be seen were the wisps of his breath rising in front of
the blackened landscape."
The first example is a (written) verbalization that
it's dark and scary. But you don't get a dark and scary
vibe from it.
The second never verbalizes it's dark and scary.
Instead, it demonstrates simply by being dark and scary.
This is a key part of your interactions with women. You
want to demonstrate good things about yourself all the
time. You can demonstrate good things about yourself
through things like Storytelling, displaying humour,
displaying intelligence. Being seen with another woman.
Having one woman over to your place and she thinks she
smells perfume, but isn't quite sure. Being busy and
having a life. One girl notices other girls calling you,
sees you with other girls who are "just friends". Things
like this demonstrate good things about you, that you're a
strong capable guy.
On the other hand, it's universally bad to demonstrate
you're clumsy, displaying a lack of intelligence and/or
social intelligence, being cowardly, etc. Showing that you
are extremely timid, seeing no one else wants you and that
you have no chance with other girls, you're going nowhere
in life...
Now here's the kicker. Dark stormy night kicker.
When you Verbalize, say, that you're something good,
you're often demonstrating the opposite.
"I'm really smart. I went to an Ivy League school."
"I drive a really nice car."
"I'm busy on Monday and Tuesday with important stuff,
let's get together on Wednesday for two hours."
"I am seeing a lot of other women right now."
"All girls want me."
"I make £X / year."
"I'm a cool guy."
"I'm really good at sex."
"I'm really deep."
"I look really sexy."
These are all TERRIBLE verbalizations. But they're not
bad qualities to demonstrate.
Let her see that you're busy and interesting,
intelligent, deep. Act like a good lover and a desirable
man. The kind of people that say "All girls want me" in a
serious tone come across insecure.
But here's the crazy thing. You can jokingly sprinkle
in little bad things about that aren't true.
"I'm shy." "Girls don't really like me."
If comments like that are obviously untrue, and said
with a slight smile, she'll think you're kidding around.
Verbalizing Low value.
They must be obviously untrue. If you actually are shy,
doesn't verbalize that you're shy. Just don't bring it up.
You can also say comments that seem very dependent on
her.
"Baby, you're like the moon and the stars and the sun
for me. Without you, there'd be no me."
This is something you can verbalize if you're a cool,
busy guy with a life. If you do that, she'll feel good. On
the other hand, if you actually do demonstrate you're
dependent on her, you want to stay away from this.
It's the difference between what you say and what you
mean. What you're telling and showing.
Don't say, "I'm a cool guy that's a good lover."
Demonstrate it.
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Sebastian Drake has been writing in the fields of
Seduction, Diplomacy, and Leadership for the past five
years. In the past two years, he has won praise and
accolodates for his oustanding and effective coaching on
live programs, workshops, and seminars. He is a cofounder
of the Approach: The Science of Social Chemistry for
the Modern Gentleman, bringing profound lifestyle
changes to any man's social, romantic, and sex life.
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