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The journey to healthy online dating, intimate, social
and personal relationships starts at the beginning of the
rainbow. Experiencing the joy of childbirth is analogous
to viewing a beautiful rainbow. Many women love being
pregnant! They feel sexy and sensual, busty and beautiful.
Furthermore, every time they gaze upon their expanding
bellies they must realize part two of this phenomenal and
splendid act is about to commence.
Many loving and responsible parents verbalize the same
statement, in anticipation of the birth of their newborn.
“I want to give my son or daughter those things I never
had”, is a universal statement. The statement made by
parent’s echoes around the world. During the elation of
the newborn, we fail to realize our traditional ways may
have a negative impact on our newborn’s disposition, as
she/he develops.
Manipulated by tradition, we believe there is no other
means to an end other than the way of those who went
before us. Fraud, manipulation, and deception have led us
to believe that it is appropriate behavior to expose our
children to fairy tales. We also accepted the belief that
fairy tales are morality tales that will strengthen the
moral disposition of our children. This statement is far
from the truth, as children around the world who are
exposed to fairy tales grow-up trying to unravel the
complexities in their lives caused by being trapped in the
fairy tale syndrome.
Our Fantasies Begin to Dominate Our Minds;
Our Desires Dominate Reason;
We begin to See Life;
As We Desire Life to Be.
Fairy tales and fictional characters harbor illusions
in our minds, constantly generating a false sense of
reality. We begin to believe what we imagine to be real,
loosing all perspective of reality. If we fail to focus on
the moment (reality), we may experience severe agony in
the future. We are always concentrating on imaginary
future events as the present moment and its life giving
lessons pass us by. We find our dating relationships
crumbling to pieces and we do not know why. We wake-up in
a state of dizziness; our dating relationships resemble
the workings of a revolving door, everyone is jumping on
and off and it seems like life is spinning out of control.
Our fantasies begin to dominate our minds; our desires
dominate reason; we begin to see life, as we desire life
to be. We begin to fantasize about the type of intimate
relationships we are going to have even taking it to the
extent of perceiving how we are going to act within the
relationships. We create images in our minds, fantasizing
about our knight in shining armor, or a Britney Spears
look alike, or just the girl next door. We begin to
fantasize about all sorts of things. It is similar to
parachute jumping without a parachute. It is an enormous
mistake because every action has a reaction. Not knowing
what the next moment will bring, places us in an
unprotected state.
When our fantasies fail to turn into reality,
intoxicants seems to be an alternative. Our relationships
with others turn sour and we turn on our best friends
(even our imaginary ones). Fear increases, as well as our
imaginary fears about future events that will never
happen. Life for many becomes fragmented and unpleasant.
We begin to experience a feeling of hopelessness,
worthlessness, and pessimism. The aforementioned is the
reaction to focusing on our desires (fantasies) instead of
reality.
“In United States 44.3 million people,
18 and older—about 1 in 5 adults,
suffer from a diagnosable mental disorder"
According to the National Institute of Mental Health,”
mental disorders are common in the United States and
internationally. An estimated 22.1 percent of Americans
ages 18 and older—about 1 in 5 adults—suffer from a
diagnosable mental disorder in a given year. When applied
to the 1998 U.S. Census residential population estimate,
this figure translates to 44.3 million people. In
addition, 4 of the 10 leading causes of disability in the
U.S. and other developed countries are mental
disorders—major depression, bipolar disorder,
schizophrenia, and obsessive-compulsive disorder. Many
people suffer from more than one mental disorder at a
given time.” There is no surprise.
As the rainbow appears to fade away, the beautiful
picture is no longer clear. What is now apparent is
reality. Reality is tolerable when we accept it. Reality
only becomes unbearable when we refuse to accept it. For
those who are planning to experience that beautiful
rainbow on the horizon, remember that universal statement
“I want to give my son or daughter those things I never
had”.
We must give our children the opportunity to experience
healthy dating relationships and embrace reality by
encouraging them to focus and live in the moment. Denied
were many the opportunities to learn the truth about the
harmful effects of fairy tales, fiction, and desires.
Countless dating relationships and marriages have ended as
nightmares because of a universal misconception, that is,
children grow out of everything. Children do not grow out
of anything (except clothing) and they just grow into
other things. Fairy tales, fantasies, and fiction are
vehicles that cause our children to experience gross
disappointments in life and destroy any hope of a healthy
dating relationship. We must ask ourselves the question;
do we want to foster disappointments and blameworthy
characteristics in our children? Let us build healthy
online dating relationships together. Stay tuned!
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Dating Articles will reveal the truth, myths, illusions
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Naim A Samad is also the author of "Don’t Leave Home
Without It". The newly released book is the author's field
leveling, investigative masterpiece that arms readers with
an information arsenal designed to help them avoid all
forms of manipulation
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