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1 Will I ever find my partner for life?
Absolutely, but you must be clear and comfortable about
who you are, what you want and most importantly have a
relationship plan. The process you go through in
developing the relationship plan will help you to identify
your requirements, need and wants. You must define your
vision of the future you want to live and have a profile
of the partner you want to spend the rest of your life
with. Let me ask you, would you drive across the country
without a map to follow? Why not take the time to
consciously look within yourself and develop a plan before
you make the most important decision of your life.
2 How do I know if I am ready to be in a committed
relationship?
People for many reasons are not ready to be in a committed
relationship. First, its all about you. Are you happy and
comfortable with yourself and the life you are living? You
can not love another until you love yourself. Do you know
what you want for yourself now and in the future? Do you
know what your absolute requirements are for a
relationship? The other reasons include being too young,
recently divorced, not emotionally free from childhood
wounds or a past relationship. You might still be trying
to establish your career or dealing with unresolved
financial or legal issues. It is imperative that you be
honest with yourself when you answer these questions so
you can gain clarity to decide if you are ready.
3 - Can I find a relationship that satisfies me?
Yes you can! One of the problems is when you create
unrealistic expatiations of what a relationship should
look like and also of your partner. This leads to
inevitable disappointment and dissatisfaction. Another
problem is when you have created a limiting false belief
that you can't find what you really want and this produces
a self-fulfilling prophecy, which could lead you into
unsuccessful relationships: You need to first develop a
relationship plan, be patient and walk through the fear of
being alone. Do not settle! Please do not put yourself in
a position when you look back three years from now
regretting your decisions. Be patient and it will come.
4 Is this the right relationship for me?
This is an easy question to answer. You must learn to
listen to your inner voice; not the chatter in your mind
but the feeling in your body that resonates from your
soul. It will always lead you to the right decision! You
know that feeling; the one that comes out of no where and
you can just feel it in your body but unfortunately most
of the time we allow our minds to drown it. I implore you,
do not ignore it and regret not listening to yourself many
years from now. Also, take your time and see if your
values and beliefs are similar and make sure the
relationship meets all of your requirements before making
a commitment.
5 How should I go about finding the right people
to date?
Great question! This is probably the hardest aspect of
trying to find a partner that aligns with your
relationship plan. At this point I would hope you have
developed a concise relationship plan and also an
attraction plan. The attraction plan will take into
account the values, beliefs, vision and requirements you
defined in your relationship plan. Next, look for venues
where people might frequent to give you the best
opportunity to meet people who match your vision and
values. Then you will scout, sort and screen to find your
partner for life.
6 Why do my relationships fail?
Wow, there are way too many reasons to list here. Some of
the biggest reasons are unrealistic expectations, not
being clear about who you are and what you want. If you
are not comfortable being you, then that could be a major
contributor to a relationship failing. If you are lonely,
looking for someone to just take care of you, settling
because of fear, you will probably find yourself in the
wrong relationship. You must take personal responsibility
for yourself and the decisions you make. Take the time to
be consciously aware of the importance of developing a
relationship plan so you can have the best chance to have
a successful and loving relationship.
7 Should I live with them before we get married?
This is a tough question to answer. It depends heavily on
your values and requirements. If you live with someone
before marriage and this is against your values, you will
be conflicted and will probably sabotage the relationship.
I will list a few of the pros and cons regarding this
topic. First the pros. You get a chance to be in their
presence 24/7. You will get a good feel for how they treat
you, their temperament, their values, their habits and
their character. The con side to this is they could be
putting on an act; you will have an exit to flee if the
going gets tough and not fight to save the relationship,
you will be comfortable in this situation and it can delay
the commitment for marriage.
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